Why Your Sponsored Child's Letters May Sound the Same
It can be disappointing when your sponsored child hasn’t responded to your questions or even mentioned the letter you sent them. Here’s why this could be happening, plus handy tips for receiving better letters.
23 Nov, 2016
Before we get to the tips, it’s helpful to understand the context that letters are written in and the cultural differences at play. Compassion staff often use letter writing as an opportunity to help the kids improve their reading and writing. Every few months, teachers hold a letter writing session. During this designated time, the teachers write a list of letter prompts or letter samples to help the kids begin writing. Your sponsored child may have excitedly taken your letter home to show their friends and family, and then stashed it in a special place. They might not be able to remember your questions. If a child has left their letter at home, they could rely heavily on the suggestions which can make the letters sound unoriginal or even scripted.
Letter writing is not always easy for children. In many countries, letter writing isn’t customary. You could be the first person your sponsored child has ever written to! In some cultures, it’s uncommon to discuss personal things like hopes, dreams and even daily life. Your sponsored child may keep their letters quite general, because they don’t think their daily life will be interesting to you.
With these factors in mind, there are practical steps you can take to improve your correspondence with your sponsored child.
6 Tips for Better Letters
1. Stick to 1-3 questions
Getting to know your sponsored child is exciting. There’s so many questions to ask! Who are their friends? What’s their favourite subject? What do they like doing on the weekend? The list goes on. Try and limit the questions you ask, though. Including too many may overwhelm your sponsored child, who might then ignore the questions altogether. For younger children, one to two questions is great, while older kids should be able to handle three.
2. Theme your letters
Try dedicating your whole letter to the topic you want to find out about. For example, if you’d like to know how your sponsored child is doing at school, ask all your questions around this topic and answer the same questions about yourself. For example, “What’s your favourite subject at school? I liked art class best.” Keeping your letters focused on a single topic should direct your child’s attention to the theme and emphasise that this is something you’re interested in.
3. Highlight your questions
Help the questions you ask to stand out by highlighting or underlining them. This will help your sponsored child (or their Compassion tutor if they are too young to write) understand that you want those questions answered. Remember to keep questions brief and use simple, easy to understand language.
4. Encourage them to draw pictures
Just like in Australia, some kids just don’t like writing. If they’re not academic or have fallen behind at school, they may feel embarrassed about their writing skills and keep their letters purposefully short. If you think this is the case, encourage them to keep writing and tell them you’re proud of how far they’ve come. You could also encourage them to draw pictures. They may feel more confident expressing themselves creatively.
5. Don’t forget the impact you’re making
When you pour your heart and soul into a letter and receive a disappointing response, it’s natural to feel discouraged or wonder if your support is even making a difference. While the letters you receive back may not always be what you hope for, never forget the impact your letters and your support is having on your sponsored child’s life. Over and over, the children in our program tell us that the words of encouragement and support from their sponsors help them to believe in themselves, work harder at school, and understand their value and worth. Just ask Synod in Bangladesh.
“Every time when I receive a letter from Sylvia I get so excited. She is like my family member. I can feel her emotion, love and care for me. It is something very special for me. She encourages me to keep up my good results at school. Her inspiration helps me to improve myself. I always wait for her letter.”
One staff member in Ecuador described this moving experience at their local Compassion centre. “Every Saturday we pray for the sponsors,” he says. “The other day I took a giant world map and a nine-year-old girl stood up, pointed to the country where her sponsor lives and said:
“How is it that someone who lives so far away can love me? Maybe it is like God, that even when we are far away and don’t know Him, He still loves us.”
I cried. I cried a lot.”
6. Get in touch with us
If you’ve tried all these tips and haven’t seen a difference in the letters you receive (remember it may take a few months for your child to receive your letter and respond to it), please contact us on 1300 22 44 53 or email firstname.lastname@example.org. The staff at your sponsored child’s centre may be able to work with your sponsored child to help them better express themselves.
Words by Zoe Noakes
Photo by Craig Thompson